<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132</id><updated>2012-02-06T09:19:11.279-05:00</updated><category term='facebook'/><category term='SL'/><category term='SecondLife'/><category term='black'/><category term='DSP'/><category term='Music'/><category term='Winamp'/><category term='club'/><category term='streaming'/><category term='Conradpedalo'/><category term='community'/><category term='Linden'/><category term='african american'/><category term='relationships'/><category term='Kiko Life'/><category term='deejay'/><category term='sex'/><category term='friendship'/><category term='Hip Hop'/><category term='Shoutcast'/><category term='ethnic'/><category term='DJ'/><category term='escort'/><category term='Conrad Pedalo'/><category term='RnB'/><category term='love'/><category term='Second Life'/><title type='text'>Conrad's Second Life</title><subtitle type='html'>The thoughts &amp;amp; adventures of the enigmatic DJ Con</subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>14</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-2145424419973634656</id><published>2012-01-28T02:55:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-28T02:55:51.959-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Virtual Personas &amp; Digital Egos</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-WAzNicimNtA/TyOc_aqxrcI/AAAAAAAAAkM/rEqmVcWcqTE/s1600/Secondbook.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="96" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-WAzNicimNtA/TyOc_aqxrcI/AAAAAAAAAkM/rEqmVcWcqTE/s320/Secondbook.jpg" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;When denizens of&amp;nbsp;Second Life&amp;nbsp;meets major social site Facebook, Second-Book is born. A network site filled with alter egos and digital personifications of our other selves. Major discussions have been held about whether SL is a game or something more. I say it is both &amp;amp; neither. Second Life is by&amp;nbsp;definition a user created virtual world therefore it's nature is relative to the user.&amp;nbsp;With that being said we all join for whatever reason &amp;amp; interact in a manner that pleases us within the confines of the&amp;nbsp;developers&amp;nbsp;TOA.&lt;br /&gt;When users decide and consent to engage in matters of the heart, personal agendas clash and deception ensues. Is it deception or rather self deception? To quote a good friend of mine '&lt;span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"&gt;after all we are just characters playing roles like in a soap opera, our own virtual reality show or perhaps maybe we would use it as it was intended&amp;nbsp; to be an escape from&amp;nbsp; the constraints of the real world&amp;nbsp; and creatively shaping a second life&amp;nbsp; starting first with an avatar a virtual representation of oneself.&amp;nbsp; how much should we really believe about second life and who's fault is it if we mistake someone else's fiction&amp;nbsp; to be our own personal nonfiction.' &amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-C2FdcmIg178/TyOi6kg9_oI/AAAAAAAAAkk/K_-3xpKB1MI/s1600/4148726508_2d76cd434e.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="222" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-C2FdcmIg178/TyOi6kg9_oI/AAAAAAAAAkk/K_-3xpKB1MI/s320/4148726508_2d76cd434e.jpg" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;Feelings get hurt because of poor communication&amp;nbsp;on all parties involved. She's called a bitch &amp;amp; he's called an asshole but who really is to blame. Should we fault the male for choosing to have a long list of women 'friends' but never really commit to anyone of them or should we fault the female for expressing feelings vicariously through an avatar?&lt;br /&gt;Facts are we all keep pertinent information away from a suitor because we consider it to be deal breakers early on. We continue with this farce until the other person becomes invested, then we slowly release information because it is easier to swallow once the heavy down payment has been made. Whether it's flirting through Facebook, Second Life, Yahoo or as I call it Second-Book you cannot depend on the other person behind the &amp;nbsp;monitor to complete your pages in your story. The more of yourself you place into your digital self the harder and stronger the disconnection will be once the other characters don't want to be part of your&amp;nbsp;fairy tale. &amp;nbsp;This virtual world of ours is solely&amp;nbsp;dependent&amp;nbsp;on whether we pay our ISP for&amp;nbsp;privileges.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bHX7RWJFMdE/TyOl0G0BxWI/AAAAAAAAAk0/vlTkfOzIsTw/s1600/strip.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="158" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bHX7RWJFMdE/TyOl0G0BxWI/AAAAAAAAAk0/vlTkfOzIsTw/s400/strip.jpg" width="400" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-2145424419973634656?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/2145424419973634656/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2012/01/virtual-personas-digital-egos.html#comment-form' title='4 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2145424419973634656'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2145424419973634656'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2012/01/virtual-personas-digital-egos.html' title='Virtual Personas &amp; Digital Egos'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-WAzNicimNtA/TyOc_aqxrcI/AAAAAAAAAkM/rEqmVcWcqTE/s72-c/Secondbook.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>4</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-3526432644456431787</id><published>2010-12-28T10:27:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2010-12-28T10:27:30.456-05:00</updated><title type='text'>2010 in Review</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;If a person can teleport to a sim &amp;amp; the first line that they read is 'Oh shit it's XXX' you know you got trouble on your hands.... 2010 what a year!&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I’ve met some crazy new friends, reconnected with old ones &amp;amp; looking forward to more memories before we all die in two years.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Oh no here we go ‘Conrad is nuts thinking 2012’ No I’m not, I’m just saying that life in itself is short.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;It's no mystery that the people I hang around are completely insane.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="http://0.gvt0.com/vi/oaKxXMc_gZg/0.jpg"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/oaKxXMc_gZg&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" /&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /&gt;&lt;embed width="320" height="266" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/oaKxXMc_gZg&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;We annoy people, make fun or ourselves and most importantly we love each other. &amp;nbsp;The few people I have come to know &amp;amp; enjoy in SL are a big part of me. &amp;nbsp;I would meet them in a heartbeat and in fact already planning &amp;nbsp;trips to meet a few of them. &amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;Everyone is entitled to their own zone of comfort and I respect the wish of anyone to remain anonymous within Second Life and on many occasions I support it. &amp;nbsp;Face it many people on Second Life are mentally unstable. The ones you meet and are constantly causing 'drama'. I for one don't know anyone like that because they don't last long in a group of people who mainly are in SL to enjoy themselves and express their love of creativity. (Yes wreaking havoc is an art..just ask Skyler).&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="http://1.gvt0.com/vi/lwkKJlQ6l5U/0.jpg"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/lwkKJlQ6l5U&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" /&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /&gt;&lt;embed width="320" height="266" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/lwkKJlQ6l5U&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;On that note let's aim to make 2011 even crazier than 2010. &amp;nbsp;I want us all to try and dedicate a day to making just one person laugh and smile so hard that their face hurts. &amp;nbsp;See you all in the funny papers!&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="http://2.gvt0.com/vi/aQhuEcgbzf4/0.jpg"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/aQhuEcgbzf4&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" /&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /&gt;&lt;embed width="320" height="266" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/aQhuEcgbzf4&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-3526432644456431787?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/3526432644456431787/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/12/2010-in-review.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/3526432644456431787'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/3526432644456431787'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/12/2010-in-review.html' title='2010 in Review'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-8915808794537085964</id><published>2010-12-02T00:15:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-02T00:19:56.271-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Fiery Beginnings End in Frigid Despair.</title><content type='html'>&lt;div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;Meeting someone new with whom you 'click' with is great isn't it. &amp;nbsp;Everything seems brand new, creativity goes thru the roof and everything in the universe seems right, perpetual order to the celestial chaos that is life. &amp;nbsp;Some couples have managed to spread this feeling throughout the span of their relationship; even with the inevitable ups and downs of relationships.&amp;nbsp; Others have crash &amp;amp; burn within a short period of time, and are left with symptoms of withdrawal.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt; That new car smell feeling that we all experience when we get into a relationship, is just a bombardment of chemical reactions in our brains. Got to love our gray matter!&amp;nbsp; I won’t get into the whole chemical breakdown of love and lust so do not worry.&amp;nbsp;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;tbody&gt;&lt;tr&gt;&lt;td style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="320" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPcp0iopXeI/AAAAAAAAAFM/iG-5xEAYelg/s320/4094350488_bb7fd8bd38.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" width="288" /&gt;&lt;/td&gt;&lt;/tr&gt;&lt;tr&gt;&lt;td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"&gt;Image courtesy of Elissiana Caproni&lt;/td&gt;&lt;/tr&gt;&lt;/tbody&gt;&lt;/table&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPcp0iopXeI/AAAAAAAAAFM/iG-5xEAYelg/s1600/4094350488_bb7fd8bd38.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;We as humans are physiologically built for intimate relationships in every aspect not just sexual.&amp;nbsp; The brain craves the rush of hormones that are released whenever we get a text, an instant message, a phone call, a touch, a kiss, a smile or anything associated with whoever triggers those feelings.&amp;nbsp; Now the real trick is how we get these feelings to last.&amp;nbsp; That is what makes or breaks relationships at times.&amp;nbsp; &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;1: Take it slow &amp;amp; even though our natural reaction is to tell that person everything about us, refrain as if your life depended on it.&amp;nbsp; Treat every conversation like a collegiate essay &amp;amp; do not use the word ‘I’.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;2. Do not play games, if you are feeling that person let them know, but don’t spend every waking moment with them at first. You still need some time apart to pursue your own interests. Send a message letting them know that they are on your mind but you cannot talk at the moment because you want to be able to give them your full attention. Yes it may be a lie but the sense of longing is what you are conditioning yourself towards.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;3. All in moderation. Trying to revive that spark is a pain. A wise teacher once told me, it is less stressful maintaining a passing grade than recovering a failing one.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;When we start to build a tolerance to being in a relationship; this is when things go sour. Similar to any addiction we eventually need more to recreate that high. People begin seeking out that high outside of their relationship, when their significant other or interest cannot supply their increasing demand….. but that’s another topic for another day).&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOG_video_class" id="BLOG_video-c1dbdf2fce256c13" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/get_player"&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF"&gt;&lt;param name="allowfullscreen" value="true"&gt;&lt;param name="flashvars" value="flvurl=http://v5.nonxt7.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3Dc1dbdf2fce256c13%26itag%3D5%26app%3Dblogger%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1331499241%26sparams%3Did,itag,ip,ipbits,expire%26signature%3D53C99E8874FBE1B511962826065D4614C133872B.83395C3C95307EC1257C8BA2CAA2C5BF7F6F4F31%26key%3Dck1&amp;amp;iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3Dc1dbdf2fce256c13%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3D5DVSyj40z0v5lLvYm4nwXrTP-SM&amp;amp;autoplay=0&amp;amp;ps=blogger"&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.youtube.com/get_player" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"width="320" height="266" bgcolor="#FFFFFF"flashvars="flvurl=http://v5.nonxt7.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3Dc1dbdf2fce256c13%26itag%3D5%26app%3Dblogger%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1331499241%26sparams%3Did,itag,ip,ipbits,expire%26signature%3D53C99E8874FBE1B511962826065D4614C133872B.83395C3C95307EC1257C8BA2CAA2C5BF7F6F4F31%26key%3Dck1&amp;iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3Dc1dbdf2fce256c13%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3D5DVSyj40z0v5lLvYm4nwXrTP-SM&amp;autoplay=0&amp;ps=blogger"allowFullScreen="true" /&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="line-height: 115%;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"&gt;Books, songs, television, talk shows and all other form of media has spoken on this phenomenon we call relationship and this info should not be anything new to you, it is just the ramblings of a madman.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14pt;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-8915808794537085964?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/8915808794537085964/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/12/fiery-beginnings-end-in-frigid-despair.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/8915808794537085964'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/8915808794537085964'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/12/fiery-beginnings-end-in-frigid-despair.html' title='Fiery Beginnings End in Frigid Despair.'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPcp0iopXeI/AAAAAAAAAFM/iG-5xEAYelg/s72-c/4094350488_bb7fd8bd38.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-4088959402282956746</id><published>2010-03-23T12:10:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2010-03-23T12:10:54.886-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='sex'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Second Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='escort'/><title type='text'>Hard Working Women and Men</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/S6jndjCSvEI/AAAAAAAAADo/n3CpZuItXnw/s1600-h/3475922712_67d8f707a1_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/S6jndjCSvEI/AAAAAAAAADo/n3CpZuItXnw/s320/3475922712_67d8f707a1_o.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;One day as I logged into SL I encountered a young lady that during conversation revealed she was an escort (well It was in her profile as I was perving it out. You know you do the same so hush). She asked if I wanted to sample her services for a minimal fee.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I pondered, declined, retracted that answer, agreed, flinched, retracted, declined &amp;amp; finally pressed Ctrl+Q.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I panicked as I thought of what my wife (real &amp;amp; virtual) would do to me in the event if I were to hire an escort virtually.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/S6jnnCI_x4I/AAAAAAAAADw/GXRbeDcKeRA/s1600-h/4159776096_0ff3b0ef79_b.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/S6jnnCI_x4I/AAAAAAAAADw/GXRbeDcKeRA/s320/4159776096_0ff3b0ef79_b.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;I spoke to the boss of my house the next morning asking what would be the difference between hiring an escort online versus reality.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I just wanted to get some feedback not to get shot!&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;These women/men &lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;are just working and there is a minimal chance of intimate feelings.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Had it been a friend who proposed this I would definitely say no. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;SL provides us all with a lifestyle that one would not normally do in reality for whatever reason. Be it bondage, homosexuality, heterosexuality, bestiality &amp;amp; the list goes on &amp;amp; on.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Keeping the anonymous factor about it is very pleasing to many people as they can explore their sexuality without judgment from those they work and/or live with. &lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"&gt;Sex sells. Especially in Second Life.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;You can find escorts &amp;amp; strippers without even searching it is just in your face constantly.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;Avatars look gorgeous, sexy &amp;amp; their clothing increases the ‘smexy’.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;Articles of fabric that defy gravity &amp;amp; the need for an adhesive, gosh I love it!&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;Here is my question(s) to you out there in Second Life:&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;b&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;b&gt;What is the difference from hiring an escort in SL and watching porno?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;They both are a means to an end.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;They both are forms of non-contact, anonymous sexual entertainment.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Let me get some feedback I’m curious to what you think.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-4088959402282956746?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/4088959402282956746/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/03/hard-working-women-and-men.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/4088959402282956746'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/4088959402282956746'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2010/03/hard-working-women-and-men.html' title='Hard Working Women and Men'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/S6jndjCSvEI/AAAAAAAAADo/n3CpZuItXnw/s72-c/3475922712_67d8f707a1_o.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-7240357187586037439</id><published>2009-12-16T23:46:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2009-12-16T23:46:29.448-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Pimp Slapping is Good for the Soul</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;As a kid, I remember getting into fights with my best friend on a regular basis.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;One of those fights stick to my memory for some reason.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;It was not out of the ordinary but I remember throwing a bicycle wheel at him, which hurt him very badly, and he dropped kick me in return.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;The battle was a stalemate and after an hour or so, we calmed down and went back to playing with our dolls, ahem, I mean action figures.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Our parents and society encourage us to talk our differences out rather than resorting to physical contact.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Many civil right leaders also taught their followers that violence would not solve anything.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;What happens when diplomacy fails? This time of year both customers and retail employees are feeling the stress of the season. &amp;nbsp;Here is a remedy.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/Sym3jL0-m9I/AAAAAAAAADA/fYsa1jcgIW8/s1600-h/punchsmooth1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/Sym3jL0-m9I/AAAAAAAAADA/fYsa1jcgIW8/s320/punchsmooth1.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;A friend of mine was telling me about how she did not want to go to work because she might be fired for slapping someone.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I normally do not promote violence but in some cases I agree you just might have to slap a bitch.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;You know exactly what I am talking about people!&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;There is this one person (Hopefully it is only one person otherwise, you might be the one asking for a beat down) that is always stealing your energy, your joy.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;You have tried to be courteous, pleasant and even avoidance but whenever that person says your name, it just makes your skin crawl and your blood boil.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I say take it outside.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Tell that person to meet you in the bathroom, the roof or heck even in a cubicle where you can tell them exactly what is on your mind.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;You are probably thinking that I have lost my mind but there is an unspoken hierarchy that exists in society.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;People tend to think that we are above the animals but instead we should learn from them.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;We need to tap into our primal nature and show people who exactly is the alpha male and female.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Next time someone gets in your face, talks trash, run your name through the mud or even looks at you cross-eyed……shove a foot so far up their ass they will need it surgically removed, literally.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;They need to be put in their place plain and simple.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Words will not suffice.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: &amp;quot;Microsoft Sans Serif&amp;quot;,&amp;quot;sans-serif&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Oh by the way, this is just the ramblings of a mad man.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I do not promote violence and if you do put your hands on someone, your ass will be arrested.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-7240357187586037439?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/7240357187586037439/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/12/pimp-slapping-is-good-for-soul.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/7240357187586037439'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/7240357187586037439'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/12/pimp-slapping-is-good-for-soul.html' title='Pimp Slapping is Good for the Soul'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/Sym3jL0-m9I/AAAAAAAAADA/fYsa1jcgIW8/s72-c/punchsmooth1.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-837534768756009970</id><published>2009-12-02T21:19:00.004-05:00</published><updated>2009-12-02T23:43:23.127-05:00</updated><title type='text'>What's Wrong with Men These Days?!</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SxdBK20Dw7I/AAAAAAAAAC0/wuEXfEW8Q7M/s1600-h/pissed.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SxdBK20Dw7I/AAAAAAAAAC0/wuEXfEW8Q7M/s320/pissed.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="color: black;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Here it is in a nutshell ladies you don't give men the chance to be men.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;‘He trifling and ain't got no job,' well give him a chance and stop treating him as a child. &amp;nbsp;I’m going to list five things you women can do to get that man to stop being trifling and for you to stop being so nagging.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;1.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Stop with all the questions&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;a.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;We men don’t talk often about our feelings so stop asking us ‘Why won’t you talk to me; I know something is wrong what is it or blah blah blah?’ We need time to think and really appreciate an initial show of concern then we want you to back away.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;If you see he is being quiet and something is bugging him, all you need to do is say ‘I can see that something is bothering you, if you want to talk about it I’ll be here for you’ then walk away.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Find something to occupy your time.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;He will be working out his issues, which sometimes take a while. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;2.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Positive Reinforcement&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;a.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Men love to be needed and being told they are doing a good job.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;That is when they do actually do something.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You might have to dig deep but tell him he did a good job and you really appreciate his effort.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;His tail will start wagging and it will empower him to go out &amp;amp; do something else nice for you.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You will find that you will have to repeat things less often and he will actually seem more loving, giving you the attention you want &amp;amp; deserve.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You have to be patient.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;3.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Give Him a Chance to Step Up&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;a.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;This is actually hard to implement because there are things that cannot wait but it ties in with steps 2 and 4.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;When he fails do not say ‘I told you so’ that will belittle him and force him to not want to try to please you.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;He will start thinking that nothing he does is ever good enough for you.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You come off as a bitch and he will clam up.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;He is not a child no matter how he acts so do not treat him as such….except for patting him on the head and telling him he’s been a good boy.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;4.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Guys Listen to your Women&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;a.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Fellas…you need to take time out for the woman that you love.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You want to be appreciated for the things that you actually do then start with what she has been lacking..attention.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;This is not sex or romance.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;This is coming home &amp;amp; giving her your undivided attention for 20-30 minutes &amp;amp; genuinely ask how her day was then shut up.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Do not speak.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Just listen and hold her.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Have an actual conversation.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Don’t start answering IM’s or emails, phone, or anything.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Whatever she has to say is important to her and al she wants is to be heard and please do not offer any solutions.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;5.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Repeat Step 1&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left: 1.0in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;a.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Like anything we do in life, practice makes perfect.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Take a deep breath.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Find something to give him credit on.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;You don’t have to agree but he still needs that reinforcement.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;If he puts the toilet seat down there is your first moment.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;Walk up to that man kiss him on the cheek and thank him for it.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;I guarantee you will find more seats down in the future.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: medium;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you noticed on the bottom you can now give feed back with just a click &amp;amp; not write a comment TYVM&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-837534768756009970?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/837534768756009970/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/12/whats-wrong-with-men-these-days.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/837534768756009970'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/837534768756009970'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/12/whats-wrong-with-men-these-days.html' title='What&apos;s Wrong with Men These Days?!'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SxdBK20Dw7I/AAAAAAAAAC0/wuEXfEW8Q7M/s72-c/pissed.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-4023608728192998997</id><published>2009-11-11T21:31:00.003-05:00</published><updated>2009-11-11T22:30:41.805-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='african american'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Second Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='ethnic'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='community'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Kiko Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='black'/><title type='text'>Shattered</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvuBS1ZhfcI/AAAAAAAAABo/D_ECZLrCoX4/s1600-h/Snapshot_008.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="245" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvuBS1ZhfcI/AAAAAAAAABo/D_ECZLrCoX4/s320/Snapshot_008.png" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="color: black; font-family: 'Bell MT', serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt;What is a community?&amp;nbsp; To some it is a group of people living within the same neighborhood, city etc.&amp;nbsp; For others a community means people who share a particular trait or traits, some familiarity bring them together. &amp;nbsp;According to&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: black; font-family: 'Bell MT', serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: black; font-family: 'Bell MT', serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/community" target="_blank"&gt;Webster's Online Dictionary&lt;/a&gt;, A community is '&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: black; font-family: 'Bell MT', serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;a body of persons or nations having a&amp;nbsp;common&amp;nbsp;history or&amp;nbsp;common&amp;nbsp;social, economic, and political&amp;nbsp;interests'.&amp;nbsp; That is but one&amp;nbsp;definition, I would like to amend that to include 'for the betterment of everyone'.&amp;nbsp; The term community has become a buzzword as of late, it is being tossed around and used too loosely.&amp;nbsp; I am so honored and grateful to &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Cambria, serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.kikolife.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color: blue;"&gt;Osuntomi Melendez&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="color: black; font-family: 'Bell MT', serif; font-size: 14pt;"&gt; for allowing me to join the Kiko Life community.&amp;nbsp; When people come together and donate their talents, their time and their resources to a cause, a beautiful idea is birthed.&amp;nbsp; I am still new to this sim but I know Kiko Life is that community. &amp;nbsp;Yet we spend a lot of time porting from sim to sim &amp;amp; renting from absent property owners when everything we need is already in place.&amp;nbsp; If enough people actually were involved in ‘their community’, there would never be a boring moment in SL.&amp;nbsp; There are enough vendors to supply a variety of products, there are enough deejay’s to stream music at least 12hrs a day.&amp;nbsp; Our sense of community is shattered. &amp;nbsp;Many people with the resources tend to go and buy their own piece of SL.&amp;nbsp; They spend an enormous amount of time building their vision of their personal community where everything is centered on them instead of forming connections with others who share the same goal and making their dream a reality.&amp;nbsp; Why are we shooting ourselves in the foot?&amp;nbsp; Rent a slot to place your product, if you are a deejay then offer to stream on Sampler Saturday’s or anytime that you can spare.&amp;nbsp; SL is not all about the lindens; it is an opportunity to enhance who you are as well as who we are.&amp;nbsp; Kiko Life is an ethnic sim built from the ground up to promote culture, fellowship and networking opportunities, a true sense of a community.&amp;nbsp; Visit the website &lt;a href="http://www.kikolife.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="color: blue;"&gt;www.kikolife.com&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt; and register after visiting or revisiting the sim to see what all this community has to offer.&amp;nbsp; We are still in our infancy but with leaders, visionaries and members, Kiko Life will make true community a reality.&lt;o:p&gt;&lt;/o:p&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-4023608728192998997?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/4023608728192998997/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/shattered.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/4023608728192998997'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/4023608728192998997'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/shattered.html' title='Shattered'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvuBS1ZhfcI/AAAAAAAAABo/D_ECZLrCoX4/s72-c/Snapshot_008.png' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-5226867892395632569</id><published>2009-11-07T10:58:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2009-11-07T11:01:31.215-05:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='friendship'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='relationships'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='facebook'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='love'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='SecondLife'/><title type='text'>Second Life Relationship Part III</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;It has been three weeks since you read my first blog &amp;amp; now you have hooked him.&amp;nbsp; You took your time, have gotten to know him and now you two see less and less of each other as you two fall back into your old SL routine.&amp;nbsp; You are working on your projects &amp;amp; he is working on his.&amp;nbsp; The visits get less and less but do not let the conversations dwindle.&amp;nbsp; The challenge is to keep the interest alive in SL.&amp;nbsp; Not easily done but the rewards are worth it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; I still say keep your personal 1&lt;sup&gt;st&lt;/sup&gt; life info separate from your 2&lt;sup&gt;nd&lt;/sup&gt; unless you are looking for that relationship outside of SL so some of this will not pertain to you, keep the lines of communication open outside of SL.&amp;nbsp; You are not logged on 24hrs a day (and if you are something is seriously wrong with you lol) so you cannot be available to talk to in SL. &amp;nbsp;Create a Gmail or Yahoo account for your avatar, with this you can still send little messages to each other throughout the day and also use their built in chat feature for the times when you don’t want to log in.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;You need something to talk about besides big bootied avatars and guys wearing too much bling, get them engaged into conversations that challenge the mind.&amp;nbsp; I like to watch one dramatic movie a week because they a person can have more to say than ‘It was good/bad’ or ‘that was funny’.&amp;nbsp; Instead, it opens up a person to deeper conversations because the subject matter requires you to place yourself in that situation.&amp;nbsp; So break down music, art, movies, books and anything else that requires a person to think and keeps their attention.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;Group get togethers are necessary as well.&amp;nbsp; If we all are in the same place to local chat then that reduces the amount of IM’s a person receives.&amp;nbsp; Also take classes together in SL, they are a great way to get a common interest that you two can combine resources on and really grow.&amp;nbsp; I am really proud of my SL sister because she has taken photography( &lt;a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/sl_tallsweetnesslisa/"&gt;&lt;span style="color: red;"&gt;follow this link to see her work&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;) to a new level when she met her now current partner.&amp;nbsp; He enjoys photography so she found a way that the two of them can bond even more.&amp;nbsp; I am not saying that you need to change your lifestyle or take on the hobbies of your loved one but think about this…..if you can’t relate to her when she is focused on a project someone else will and when the communication breaks down, that sexy avatar will begin to look less and less attractive as the mental side of the relationship dissolves into conversations about ‘want to try out my new digital genitals?!’&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;To summarize all three sections: 1.take it slow &amp;amp; 2. Go beyond the sexy avatar 3. Plant seeds of intelligent thought into their minds and nurture it. &amp;nbsp;If we do not have anything good to say then we tend to say nothing at all. Don't have chat boxes that look like this:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;PersonA: How was your day? PersonB: okay A:I missed you B: aww ty (20 minutes go by) A: I'll brb B: K ttyl.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: .5in;"&gt;As always I welcome your comments, hate mail &amp;amp; voicemails! Have a great one everyone!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-5226867892395632569?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/5226867892395632569/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/second-life-relationship-part-iii.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/5226867892395632569'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/5226867892395632569'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/second-life-relationship-part-iii.html' title='Second Life Relationship Part III'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-3304938227456597139</id><published>2009-11-04T20:24:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2009-11-05T00:29:11.587-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Emotional Perception</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif, 'Arial Unicode MS'; font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvJiHON9B_I/AAAAAAAAABQ/QLxkWbtYaTg/s1600-h/Chillingpt3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvJiHON9B_I/AAAAAAAAABQ/QLxkWbtYaTg/s320/Chillingpt3.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;Impressionism, modern, abstract and realism are just a few types of art/painting that exist.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;What is it about art that captures our attention?&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;Why do we look at those blobs of colored ink or streaks of charcoal and either fall in love or heave in disgust (I would hate if the latter has happened to any of you).&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;Some of you might be thinking that you don’t know the first thing about art or qualified to critique it but I digress.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;In each and every one of us is a critique because art is created for you to view so automatically you are an art critique.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;All you need is an open mind.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"&gt;Even before spoken language we humans have been drawing and making pictures to describe how we feel and how we view our surroundings.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;We use the resources around us to tell others ‘this is what I am going through, can you relate to me?’ The same goes on for artists.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;They use their blank canvas or whatever medium along with what resources they have to show us how they feel at the time.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;We are bound to our memories and our brain links strong emotions to certain situations to form lasting memories.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;We also use color to describe such intangible notions as feelings, I’m so sad I’m blue, red &amp;amp; angry, green with jealousy.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;Even animals use colors to both warn off potential threats as well as seek a mate.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;Our mind also analyzes shapes to describe what we are seeing. Certain shapes automatically register as a particular object, four legs must be an animal, tall and bushy that should be a tree.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;We label an object before we actually ‘see’ the item in our view.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvJidpEJlgI/AAAAAAAAABg/Man1OcBOBG0/s1600-h/AbstractfeMale1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="320" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvJidpEJlgI/AAAAAAAAABg/Man1OcBOBG0/s320/AbstractfeMale1.jpg" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;Artists have taken advantage of this process; they blend color, lines and shapes into something that we all should be able to relate to.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;That is why we tend to pause and stare at works of art a bit longer than a picture.&amp;nbsp;Our brain is trying to find out what it is, once it can’t find a shape of a known object from memory it decodes the colors and then it cross references those colors with memories or at least the emotional roadmap of memories.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;That is why certain works of art puts us at ease or another just makes your eyes bleed.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;Our mind is finding some way to tell you what it sees so when nothing matches with our ‘map’ it just uses emotion ‘That painting just looks angry’ etc.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"&gt;We like to adorn our homes and businesses with art to create certain moods so I challenge you to go to an art gallery in your home city if you can or follow this &lt;a href="http://slurl.com/secondlife/Oved%20Valley/234/180/235"&gt;Slurl&lt;/a&gt; to a gallery in SL at the least. Open up your mind and critique; try to imagine what the artist was going through and what they are trying to tell you.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;The more we do it the bigger and more accurate our mental road map will become. The better our road map is, the smaller the world seems. The smaller the world seems then aren’t we all just neighbors…at least that’s the way I ‘see’ it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-3304938227456597139?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/3304938227456597139/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/emotional-perception.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/3304938227456597139'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/3304938227456597139'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/11/emotional-perception.html' title='Emotional Perception'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/SvJiHON9B_I/AAAAAAAAABQ/QLxkWbtYaTg/s72-c/Chillingpt3.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-1502070116678263716</id><published>2009-10-27T17:44:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-10-27T17:44:40.927-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Second Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='friendship'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='relationships'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Conrad Pedalo'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='love'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='SecondLife'/><title type='text'>Part II of SL Relationships</title><content type='html'>&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;There are people in SL who are genuinely sincere in their approach.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Whether it be for love, friendship &amp;amp; yes even casual sex (since there are entire sims devoted to casual sex &amp;amp; noobies).&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Others hide their intent, not because they want to deceive, there are those that do, but because of uncertainty &amp;amp; trying to protect what is dear to them, their heart.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;As I noted before things happen very quickly in SL and I advised on controlling the flirts.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;If you are one of the few genuine real people in SL, you need to be aware of your own actions as well as others.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;For starters, do not jump gung ho into that new person that you meet.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Take your time, ask questions, and refrain from flirting and over complimenting on the avatar’s appearance.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Someone told me that I asked a lot of questions, well I have to in order to decide whether or not I want to pursue this friendship and have it evolve into something more.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;It’s too easy to flirt but takes a disciplined person to refrain from it and if you remove the rubbish from the IM’s guess what you are having people…..a real &amp;amp; hopefully engaging conversation!!&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Don’t get me wrong flirting has its place just not every time you IM a person, eventually it will get boring &amp;amp; what happens when the other person is not in the mood then you are left thinking they are an ass because you got blew off. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;A now good friend of mine told me that they do not like people slobbering over their avatar.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;She is tired of men drooling over the avatar &amp;amp; not taking the time to find out who is behind the vixen.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;The same can be said for women who drool.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;You lose whatever bit of interest that person held for you and they might even begin to avoid you.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;It is okay to compliment just don’t overdo it along with the flirting.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;If you are interested in a person and they are always the driving force of the conversation then you might have to look a little deeper inside yourself.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;It needs to be a two-way conversation or else someone will be labeled boring.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Find something to talk about, that is why you must ask questions people!!!&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I have only found a few people who are able to carry on a solid conversation, other I am probing &amp;amp; probing trying to get them to talk since they have expressed interest as well.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Once I stop asking the conversation goes dead &amp;amp; then there is this awkward silence.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;To get the affection of your heart’s desire you need sincerity &amp;amp; most importantly respect personal boundaries.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;There is nothing wrong with trying to spend as much time together as possible you just need to balance it.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Leave that person an open invitation, if you are going to be at a club let them know that they are more than welcome to join you and that your IM box is always available.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Leave it at that.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Do not press the issue and keep the conversation friendly.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;If they are available, they will show &amp;amp; if they are at least interested in you, they will at least IM you. &lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;Try being friends first, don't forget to r&lt;/span&gt;ead the signs and protect what is dear to you.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;As with any of my postings I welcome&amp;nbsp;anonymous&amp;nbsp;comments,&amp;nbsp;voice mails&amp;nbsp;&amp;amp; hate-mail. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-1502070116678263716?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/1502070116678263716/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/part-ii-of-sl-relationships.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/1502070116678263716'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/1502070116678263716'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/part-ii-of-sl-relationships.html' title='Part II of SL Relationships'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-2332217968659827704</id><published>2009-10-17T10:59:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-10-17T10:59:16.084-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Second Life Relationship Column Part 1....</title><content type='html'>&lt;span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;"&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;This will hopefully be a 3 part blog, I am waiting for more input from a female's point of view so the blogs should be &amp;nbsp;more thoughtful &amp;amp; insightful as you read on.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;Relationships in Second Life are a dangerous thing as is any relationship that is not healthy, physically and mentally.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Though I have very few male friends that I talk to on a regular basis, I do have quite a few female friends that have been on the SLRRC (Second Life Relationship Roller Coaster).&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I offer you all some advice to help reduce the amount of heartache you receive both men &amp;amp; women.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;1.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Slow Down&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;a.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Things happen extremely fast in Second Life, I have seen people log in at 3pm, partnered by 5pm &amp;amp; divorced by 6pm.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Be just as cautious as you would be in reality.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;b.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Do not be so quick to start claiming someone’s sole attention.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;They had friends before you (unless they are a fresh rez).&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Instead, ask to meet their friends at an event. That way you all will get to know each other &amp;amp; you might even find out some info on this new potential interest.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;2.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Be anonymous&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;a.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Keep your 1&lt;sup&gt;st&lt;/sup&gt; &amp;amp; 2&lt;sup&gt;nd&lt;/sup&gt; life separate.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I am not saying do not give any real info if that is what you please, what I am saying is if you have created an alter ego who is completely different from who you are then leave it at that. If you feel the need to ‘be honest’ then you should have been YOU in the beginning. It’s a huge risk you are taking when you initially sell the ‘idea’ of you then it turns out to be false.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;b.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;You will never know the real person behind the avatar unless you meet face-to-face in a social setting.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;3.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Calm your jealousy&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;a.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Relax; flirting is second nature to many people because of anonymity. &lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;Regardless of your relationship status you cannot prevent flirting, all you can hope for is that your date has enough respect for you to end it as soon as it begins.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;4.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Respect for others and yourself&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;a.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Do not put up with in your 2&lt;sup&gt;nd&lt;/sup&gt; life that you will not put up with in your 1&lt;sup&gt;st&lt;/sup&gt;.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;I cannot stress this enough.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;You cannot stop your date from chatting other people when you are in conversation with them.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;If you two are trustworthy then allow each other to find you on the map and do pop up randomly, there is nothing wrong if the person you love pops up to spend time with you.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;If that is an issue then keep that person at arm’s length.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Map Find is the virtual version of the key to the apartement.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left: 1.25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -.25in;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-fareast-font-family: &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&lt;span style="mso-list: Ignore;"&gt;b.&lt;span style="font: 7.0pt &amp;quot;Times New Roman&amp;quot;;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;If you do catch your other half cheating or admits to it then I suggest you end the romantic part of it and move on.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;It will happen again, have some self respect &amp;amp; esteem to say ‘No I am better than this &amp;amp; I deserve more’.&lt;span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Do not settle EVER.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="MsoNormal"&gt;More to come…..&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-2332217968659827704?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/2332217968659827704/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/second-life-relationship-column-part-1.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2332217968659827704'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2332217968659827704'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/second-life-relationship-column-part-1.html' title='Second Life Relationship Column Part 1....'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-5105039536526616547</id><published>2009-10-13T09:39:00.001-04:00</published><updated>2009-10-13T09:40:25.186-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='streaming'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Music'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='DJ'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Second Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Shoutcast'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='DSP'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Conradpedalo'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='deejay'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Conrad Pedalo'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Winamp'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='SecondLife'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='club'/><title type='text'>Becoming A DJ in Second Life: Easy Setup No Mic Needed</title><content type='html'>I've had a few people ask me how to become a DJ in SL so here is my quick &amp;amp; dirty tutorial for doing. &amp;nbsp;You will need one program and a plug-in in order to be able to play your favorite tunes over the internet into Second Life. &amp;nbsp;Winamp media player and it's Shoutcast DSP Plugin. &amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://www.winamp.com/player"&gt;Click here for Winamp, any version will do&lt;/a&gt;&amp;nbsp;next you need the plugin&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://www.shoutcast.com/download"&gt;, get the plugin here and follow up to step 5.&lt;/a&gt;&amp;nbsp;Once you get to this step without any issues you are almost done. &lt;br /&gt;Now we need to configure our DSP, if your Shoutcast Source window is not already up then go to Options--Preferences--Plugins--DSP/Effect &amp;amp; select the dsp (should be step 5). &amp;nbsp;Once that window opens up you will see four(4) tabs Main-Output-Encode-Input. The Main tab doesn't show anything&amp;nbsp;relevant&amp;nbsp;so we will jump to the encoder tap &amp;amp; select MP3 and at a quality of your choosing, I&amp;nbsp;recommend&amp;nbsp;96k, 41 hz Stereo, but some people swear by 128k. &amp;nbsp;Now go to the Input tab &amp;amp; it should be on Winamp Select, if you have it on soundcard then that allows you to 'talk over the music'. The output tab is the last thing you need to configure &amp;amp; that info comes from a 'streaming server'.&lt;br /&gt;You can rent one is &amp;nbsp;SL anywhere from 500L to 1000L a month depending on the bandwidth &amp;amp;&amp;nbsp;amount&amp;nbsp;of listeners you expect to have. I&amp;nbsp;recommend&amp;nbsp;going for a 96kbps --&amp;gt;128kbps &amp;amp; 50 Listeners server for the beginner. &amp;nbsp;The server info looks alot like an IP address (example 64.12.4.567) &amp;amp; the port is what follows (:1234). So when giving out your stream to potential customers it will look like so http://64.12.4.567:1234 according to my example. Alternatively some clubs or businesses have their own server which they will let you stream to if you are djing for them. &amp;nbsp;Oh don't forget to click 'connect' once the server info is in.&lt;br /&gt;If you are not familiar with winamp I suggest you get familiar with the media library &amp;amp; searching, creating playlists &amp;amp; the now playing section. &amp;nbsp;Do not &amp;amp; I repeat DO NOT use&amp;nbsp;shuffle or&amp;nbsp;random while streaming. It will crash everytime. &amp;nbsp;Good Luck &amp;amp; see you in world.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-5105039536526616547?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/5105039536526616547/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/becoming-dj-in-second-life-easy-setup.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/5105039536526616547'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/5105039536526616547'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/becoming-dj-in-second-life-easy-setup.html' title='Becoming A DJ in Second Life: Easy Setup No Mic Needed'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-2376477837802340942</id><published>2009-10-09T21:07:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-10-09T21:07:21.130-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Music'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='DJ'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Hip Hop'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='RnB'/><title type='text'>It was all about the music</title><content type='html'>I fought with the idea of going back to streaming music and the music won. &amp;nbsp;So today I rented a stream &amp;amp; will begin 'deejaying' once or twice a week for kicks. &amp;nbsp;R&amp;amp;B &amp;amp; Hip Hop music is such a&amp;nbsp;culturally&amp;nbsp;driven art much like Heavy Metal &amp;amp; Country. &amp;nbsp;These are sounds that people grow up with and it's embedded into their personalities. &amp;nbsp;Whenever I hear or read a comment about how a person can't stand a certain genre of music, it irks me a little because it seems so closed minded&amp;nbsp;especially&amp;nbsp;in SL. &amp;nbsp;If you go to a club for the contest don't turn off the music as soon as you hear one song, give it a chance, listen to the lyrics, the underlying&amp;nbsp;rhythm&amp;nbsp;and I promise you it will surprise you how much in common it has to your favorite genre.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-2376477837802340942?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/2376477837802340942/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/it-was-all-about-music.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2376477837802340942'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2376477837802340942'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/it-was-all-about-music.html' title='It was all about the music'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3933997984896151132.post-2269228236515175668</id><published>2009-10-07T10:27:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-10-07T10:27:55.640-04:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Second Life'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Linden'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='SL'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='SecondLife'/><title type='text'>Where is Everybody</title><content type='html'>One thing that bothers me in Second Life is the fact that many people say that they are 'bored'. They need something to do. So whenever I hear this I start looking at the event board and teleporting to places and find what seems to be lavish worlds with no people, it's as if I stepped into the movie 'I am Legend'. The entire island is usually empty. &amp;nbsp;Maybe there is some truth to this virtual boredom.&lt;br /&gt;Linden Lab leaves SL to the community to develop but the community is broken and greedy. &amp;nbsp;Everyone wants an island, their own 'castle'. Though I have nothing against people trying to be&amp;nbsp;entrepreneurial, they do need a sense of community to bring avatars together and not just at a two hour event or special occasion. &amp;nbsp;I took a trip to a sim that is made to look like Harlem in the 50's. The area was beautiful and I was ready to engage in it but no one was there &amp;amp; it is hard to believe Harlem to be empty during the 50's or. This applies to most sims that recreates a major city, they are beautiful to look at but completely lifeless.&lt;br /&gt;&amp;nbsp;. People spend a great deal of real money &amp;amp; time to maintain their 'club' or 'business'.&amp;nbsp;Here is what I propose as a possible solution. &amp;nbsp;People should combine their resources and stop trying to be an island owning dictator. &amp;nbsp;Business need traffic and people want to go places where there are others to interact with. &amp;nbsp;If at least five (5) business/land owners (need I say LEADERS) get together and place their resources on one sim, they can setup a virtual community much like in real life complete with residential &amp;amp; commercial areas. Where at any given time there will be avatars abound. Encourage the small businesses to setup shop &amp;amp; create a welcome center for the new ones. Traffic will grow&amp;nbsp;exponentially&amp;nbsp;to the point they will have to create another one but only once the first has been completed. &amp;nbsp;Sure there will be others who will try and emulate but competition is natural and welcome. &lt;br /&gt;Had the Harlem area had real apartments and businesses I would stayed there and enjoyed music at the Cotton Club or enjoyed coffee at the Paris sim on a regular basis. We are social creatures and we all can't be kings of our private SL world nor do most desire that responsibility. &amp;nbsp;I joined Second Life to have a 2nd life, meaning I can't travel the world but in SL I can the only problem is when I get theses far away cities I am only greeted by tumbleweeds.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/3933997984896151132-2269228236515175668?l=conradpedalo.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/feeds/2269228236515175668/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/where-is-everybody.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2269228236515175668'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/3933997984896151132/posts/default/2269228236515175668'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://conradpedalo.blogspot.com/2009/10/where-is-everybody.html' title='Where is Everybody'/><author><name>Conrad Pedalo</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15420310088244197831</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='32' src='http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AGcS26nByXM/TPapQWUiO6I/AAAAAAAAAEs/v8bdutdTqh4/S220/Noobs.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry></feed>
