When users decide and consent to engage in matters of the heart, personal agendas clash and deception ensues. Is it deception or rather self deception? To quote a good friend of mine 'after all we are just characters playing roles like in a soap opera, our own virtual reality show or perhaps maybe we would use it as it was intended to be an escape from the constraints of the real world and creatively shaping a second life starting first with an avatar a virtual representation of oneself. how much should we really believe about second life and who's fault is it if we mistake someone else's fiction to be our own personal nonfiction.'
Feelings get hurt because of poor communication on all parties involved. She's called a bitch & he's called an asshole but who really is to blame. Should we fault the male for choosing to have a long list of women 'friends' but never really commit to anyone of them or should we fault the female for expressing feelings vicariously through an avatar?
Facts are we all keep pertinent information away from a suitor because we consider it to be deal breakers early on. We continue with this farce until the other person becomes invested, then we slowly release information because it is easier to swallow once the heavy down payment has been made. Whether it's flirting through Facebook, Second Life, Yahoo or as I call it Second-Book you cannot depend on the other person behind the monitor to complete your pages in your story. The more of yourself you place into your digital self the harder and stronger the disconnection will be once the other characters don't want to be part of your fairy tale. This virtual world of ours is solely dependent on whether we pay our ISP for privileges.